More advice!!!

DEAR ABBY: My wife had an unhappy five-year marriage to her high-school boyfriend. They divorced when their son, "Noah," was 20 months old. Then she met me, and we have been married for 34 happy years.

I adopted Noah with the consent of his birth father, who also remarried and had a family. My wife and I added a daughter to ours.

I was aware that Noah had re-established contact with his birth father and half siblings. We supported it. But we were blindsided when Noah told us he plans to take back his original surname. He says it isn't "personal," but he wants his children to have their "rightful" name and know their "true" lineage.

Abby, we are hurt and confused. This has caused a painful rift in the family. Please help.

- Noah's Real Dad in New York

Listen, big guy, let it go.  I know it does suck that your "son" wants to change his last name back to his REAL last name.  I get it you raised this young gunner as he was your own kid, let him eat you out of house and home, paid all those bills.  This is exactly why you should have read my previous post about not raising other people's kids.  You are hurt and have the right to be.  I mean you adopted the lil bastard when he was 20 months old so it was not like he could tell you he did not want your simple last name.  So it really is not personal and made his own decision.  Which brings me to my next point.

I am not a mathematician by any means but doing the math Noah is a 30 something grown a** man.  I need you to let this grown a** man make grown a** decisions. At this age he is probably out of your his house, maybe has a wife and some kids.  You work on enjoying retirement and if you really want another son pop a Viagra and go find a young woman who needs a Sugar Daddy.